What is NLP?

NLP: Not for Sheep

NLP: Not for Sheep

NLP can be described as the universal language of the mind, body and spirit.

Many enthusiasts talk of NLP as being the “Owner’s Manual for the Brain”. Within the context of coaching & therapy, NLP provides an elegant set of tools to examine and change the basic structure of how our emotions and thoughts affect the choices we make.

Doing NLP

NLP is a living, growing model. It’s not a theory and you won’t benefit from simply learning and reciting the principles.

NLP has impact through doing because it is through applying it that new thoughts and behaviours come to life.

With NLP you learn to embrace ownership of your life. You improve:

  • Your language patterns (verbal, body, behavioural) both with yourself and others
  • Communication and persuasion skills
  • The associations your mind makes, moving from negative vicious cycles to the freedom of choice
  • The things of value – throwing away fears and limitations other people have imposed and establishing your own identity
  • Your thought patterns, developing better relationships, achieving successes, becoming confident and at peace with yourself

Benefits of NLP

  • Thinking using NLP principles creates empowering thinking patterns. They may be forced at the beginning as you consciously practice them. They do become second nature.
  • Problem automatic reactions are controlled at a subconscious level preventing them from being triggered.
  • NLP works with material in your own mind. Therefore it is an easy fit and works in harmony with your beliefs and values.
  • NLP impacts at the subconscious level so your growth occurs as part of your normal everyday behaviour
  • NLP is a life long set of tools that you can use again and again on issues such as bad habits, compulsive behaviours, negative “mind-chatter”, improving presentation skills, career goals and procrastination.

 How NLP Helps During Psychotherapy & Coaching

  • NLP focuses on solutions
  • NLP methods enable you to step away from the emotion and view an event from different perspectives
  • The solutions come from within you and therefore are congruent with your personal values. This means they fit with you.
  • NLP places you in a position of empowerment. Your self-talk changes.
  • You realise that there is a distinct method and reason for everything that you do. You learn how to “change the recipe” so you get different outcomes when you want them.

NLP is not simply a technique. NLP is a way of life.

There are elements of it that you are most certainly using in your life at the moment without knowing that you are.

You definitely used it when you were a baby learning to walk. That’s how natural NLP is and once you harness it, events, circumstances and emotions become much easier to control and shape.

Exploring Timelines

Exloring Timelines is adapted from the Timeline Therapy™ work of Tad James and also integrates techniques from NLP.

Everybody has their own sense of time. It’s one of the fundamental building blocks for day-to-day living and amongst other things, it influences thought processes with regards to organisation and prioritising.

For example, it is impossible to make a “to-do” list at work and put the items in order of importance without having a sense of time as it is time that gives the urgency. It is very possible however, to lose sense of time and skip items from your list and give yourself a sense of panic later on in the day. A sense of panic that, over time, can turn into a slippery slope of guilt, failure and poor self-esteem.

In coaching and therapy, timelines are used in a number of ways to determine how your representation of time impacts the problems you are having. One way includes exploring the timeline to determine when problems first started and how your sense of “past”, “present” and “future” is keeping that problem going.

Subtle shifts in your representation of time enable you to see and do things differently.

This is part of a series of posts outlining the methods I use during coaching. The full series is:

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