I have been absent from here for a while. The steel company I co-own is expanding and there are a few other irons in the fire. Nothing I can go into here but can’t wait to share details when appropriate.
However I have been reading your responses coming in to the Shape Your Reality survey.
Obviously, there are no right or wrong answers to this – your reality is made up from what you think and what you do. You act according to how and what you think, not what you want.
One of the questions in the survey is “If you could wake up tomorrow with one thing in your life changed, what would that be?”
Over half of you tell me that you would use this wish to wake up tomorrow and have things be better for someone you love. It is heart-warming that such care and concern for others is alive and well.
The only thing that I want to mention is that in such an instance wishing that things for someone else get better can be a way of avoiding or disguising an aspect of your own reality. Such as an unvoiced fear of taking some action.
As always, everything you tell me is confidential – that even includes anonymous responses to a survey. So instead of using one of your answers, I’ll make up a hypothetical situation that’s loosely based on one.
Say you have a son who won’t get a job and spends all day in his room or out with friends. You argue a lot and are in a communication deadlock with each other. Say that you responded to my survey with “The one change I would like to wake up with tomorrow is that my son has a good job.”
How does this change your life?
Well, it might break the tension in your house and create more harmony as the arguments cease. It might allow you to talk with pride about your son – something you feel unable to do at present.
So another way of answering the original survey question could be “The one change I would like to wake up with tomorrow is a more harmonious and respectful relationship with my son.”
Now although both answers come from the same desire, do you see that one feels more empowering? Empowering in that it gives you the space to find a way to take a step towards actually making that change you want more achievable.
Personal Empowerment is a scary process when you’ve become accustomed to living in a certain way. But the results are pretty sweet.
Next time you feel something is out of your control, take a look at it and see how you can change the way you think about it from another perspective.
After all you act according to what you think.
Have you taken the Shape Your Reality survey?