Life is something to be lived in, not something to be lived through.  

Taking control over a certain problem area in life can be quite tough. Obstacles appear bigger and hope dissipates as we make undue associations. Understanding that we are separate from this problem that haunts us helps our sense of deserving the solution. This helps our determination to do what it takes to gain control. 

To illustrate this, Oprah Winfrey comes to mind.

Born in poverty, Oprah was sexually abused from the age of 9 into her teens. She was a runaway, experimented with drugs and lost a baby at the age of 14. You can read more about Oprah Winfrey here.

Despite being a victim of an overtly dysfunctional start to life, she seems to have grown up with three keys that she would later take full advantage of.

Key 1: A loving grandmother who looked after her until the age of 6, teaching her to read, recite and speak in public.

Key 2: A loving but very strict father with high standards who sought to break through her rebellious behaviour and prioritised her education.

Key 3: An ability to recognise and use keys 1 and 2 to unlock doors to overcome the dysfunction that caused her so much misery.

Keys 1 and 2 contain so much more than just the physical process of education. They contain role models. Attitudes and beliefs to learn from and grow with. Oprah has said how her father and grandmother inspired her confidence to achieve more from life.

The first black female news anchor in America, she has become one of the richest and most influential women of the present day. Economists have estimated that Oprah’s endorsement of Barack Obama was worth over a million votes.

It is however Key 3 that unlocked the door through which the other two keys could be accessed. We all have this key, although the ease of using it can depend on the level of anger or resentment or fear that coats it like a layer of rust.

Often, blaming other people, circumstance or even ourselves for stopping us doing something blinds us to our own potential as it leaves us waiting helplessly for outside forces to change.

Wayne Dyer met Oprah to congratulate her after a particular success. She listened to him list out her achievements and when he asked to whom she attributed her success, she took a moment to think back on her rocky path, looked at him with eyes glittering with joy and quietly said “I did this”.

“I did this”.  Powerful words indeed.    

 

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